Children who like to play with stuffed toys generally have no sense of security

As for those children who have a certain sense of security, they can often get out of the anxiety of separation from their parents in time, shift their attention to new things, and integrate into group activities. Because they know that their parents are only leaving them temporarily and will come back to pick them up later, so they don’t have to feel too sad.

Like to play with plush toys

Swedish psychologists have conducted a fake monkey experiment. The researchers put a group of young monkeys in a breeding box, and then arranged a "wire mother monkey" for feeding them on one side, and a furry and warm "flannel mother monkey" on the other side.

After a month of observation, it was found that the little monkeys spent most of their time with the warm "flannel mother monkey" except for feeding. This shows that both humans and animals have basic psychological needs for warmth and love. In the same way, those children who lack a sense of security often lack love, and they want more warmth.

Therefore, these children prefer plush toys and various rag dolls, and satisfy their inner desire for warmth and security by playing with plush toys. In fact, this is also a psychological compensation mechanism. The soft feeling brought by plush toys compensates for their lack of inner sense of security.

Children who like to throw tantrums often lack a sense of security

Some children like to express their emotions through crying, shouting, etc., and their emotions are more unstable than other children. In fact, this is a manifestation of lack of security. When a child lacks enough sense of security, he will hope that his family will pay more attention to him and care about him, so he will get the attention of people around him by throwing tantrums.

They are not able to express their emotions in a reasonable way, and it is difficult to express their feelings in their hearts, so they choose to cry and make a fuss. Therefore, as a parent, when you find that your child often cries, don't rush to stop or deny them, but should be tolerant and understanding. Patiently guide your child.

When you are willing to treat them with a tolerant attitude and communicate with them patiently, they can feel your love and build a sense of security.